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External and Internal Validation (Part 1)

Having a healthy sense of self-worth means balancing both external and internal validation. External validation is when you derive your self-worth from sources outside of yourself while Internal validation is when your self-worth comes from within.  Unfortunately, many people rely on the external at the expense of the internal, thereby creating a situation where you are hustling to prove yourself to others and are over-sensitive to their criticism.   In this special two-part series, we’re welcoming back to the show, Reno Johnston, to discuss how we can develop a more secure sense of self-worth using both external and internal validation.  In part 1, we’ll be focusing on the external by discussing things like: Watch this episode on YouTube Your Hosts Resources Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection Building Better Relationships course Healing Your Shame course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Connect With Us Join the Facebook community and monthly Group Zoom call You can also follow us on Instagram and TikTok Support the Show

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Imposter Syndrome

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Travis Holp talk about imposter syndrome and how they have navigated periods in their lives when they felt like imposters. They also unpack the concepts of self-doubt, inadequacy, perfectionism, and fear of failure, which often underlie imposter syndrome.  The questions we explored in this episode are: Connect with Travis: Website: www.travisholp.com Instagram: @traviswarriorunicorn Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the Show

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Purity Culture 2.0

Whether you are aware of it or not, Purity Culture has influenced social norms around sex and relationships for centuries by attempting to repress sexual expression and label it as ‘sinful.’  Even though society has evolved, so too as Purity Culture. It continues to have a harmful impact on the queer community by influencing policy and feeding into stigmatizing attitudes. In this episode, Michael DiIorio invites Jon Carl Lewis of Sex and the Queer Christian to have a discussion about Purity Culture 2.0. They’ll be discussing topics such as: Join in for this revealing conversation about discovering your unique sexual values.  Today’s Guest: Jon Carl Lewis Watch this episode on YouTube Resources Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection Building Better Relationships course Healing Your Shame course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Connect With Us Join the Facebook community and monthly Group Zoom call You can also follow us on Instagram and TikTok Support the Show

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Sex and Intimacy (part 2)

Do you want sex or do you want intimacy? Or both? Sometimes our attempts to connect with guys gets thwarted by the confusion between these desires. This can lead to frustration and over time, loneliness.  In part 2 of this 2-part episode, Michael and Matt are going deeper into the topic of intimacy by talking about… If you want to increase your capacity for greater intimacy in your relationships, this episode is for you.  Michael’s Sexual Empowerment 101 Group Workshops Watch this episode on YouTube Resources Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection Building Better Relationships course Healing Your Shame course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Connect With Us Join the Facebook community and monthly Group Zoom call You can also follow us on Instagram and TikTok Support the Show

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Sex and Intimacy (part 1)

Do you want sex or do you want intimacy? Or both? Sometimes our attempts to connect with guys gets thwarted by the confusion between these desires. This can lead to frustration and over time, loneliness.  In part 1 of this 2-part episode, Michael and Matt are going deeper into sex, intimacy, and sexual intimacy including…  Join us for this informative episode full of helpful tidbits that you can use to increase intimacy in your relationships. Michael’s Sexual Empowerment 101 Group Workshops Watch this episode on YouTube Resources Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection Building Better Relationships course Healing Your Shame course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Connect With Us Join the Facebook community and monthly Group Zoom call You can also follow us on Instagram and TikTok Support the Show

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The Science of Healing

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel interviews Ed Cohen about the science of healing. Ed shares a holistic perspective on healing and how we can begin to reclaim our authority over our health from systems that can easily fail us if we become too passive. We explore how the mind and body are intrinsically connected when it comes to health and healing, and that it is important to search for deeper meaning when our body is expressing illness in any form. If you are someone who suffers from chronic illness, this episode will definitely shine a fresh perspective on healing for you.   The concepts we explored in this episode are: Connect with Ed: Website: www.healingcounsel.com Instagram: @healingcounsel Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon

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Your Relationship with Your Body

How would you describe your relationship with your body? Are you BFFs or are you more like frenemies?  We each have a unique relationship with our bodies which directly influences how we treat it.  In this episode, we’re going deeper into that relationship by answering questions such as: Join us for this episode if you want to feel better about your body and create a more loving, respectful relationship with it. Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection Instagram Patreon — Matt Landsiedel’s Website Michael DiIorio’s Website Calan Breckon’s Website

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Body Representation

Mainstream and social media influence the norms of what is an attractive or acceptable body within our community.  Buying into this narrow definition is easy, but it can be detrimental to your self-image and self-esteem.   Body representation is the practice of celebrating a diverse range of body types and unlearning the conditioning that only some bodies are worth showing.   In this juicy episode, we’re answering questions such as: Join us for this spirited discussion about body positivity, self-image, and what you can do to support more diverse body representation in the media. Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection Instagram Patreon — Matt Landsiedel’s Website Michael DiIorio’s Website Calan Breckon’s Website

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Love Languages

There are countless ways to give and receive love. We each have unique preferences can change over time. Our “love languages” are influenced by factors such as our upbringing, attachment traumas, and relationship history.  In this episode, we’re going deeper into the Love Languages, specifically answering questions such as: ❤️ What are your love languages? ❤️ What makes you feel loved? What influenced this? ❤️ How do you like to give love? What influenced this? ❤️ What would be your 6th love language? Take the 5 Love Languages Quiz Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection Instagram Patreon — Matt Landsiedel’s Website Michael DiIorio’s Website Calan Breckon’s Website

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The Practice of Empathy & Being an Empath

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and  Dr. Michael R. Smith talk about empathy and what it’s like being an empath and sensitive gay man in a world that isn’t designed for us. We share our own personal experiences being empathic/intuitive and how this can be beneficial but also challenging. We also discuss how relationships and sex can be different for empaths and how we have learned to best navigate this dynamic terrain.  The concepts we explored in this episode are: Connect with Michael: Website link: www.empathconnection.com Instagram: @michael_robert_smith Facebook: Empath Connection Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon

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