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Love Languages

There are countless ways to give and receive love. We each have unique preferences can change over time. Our “love languages” are influenced by factors such as our upbringing, attachment traumas, and relationship history.  In this episode, we’re going deeper into the Love Languages, specifically answering questions such as: ❤️ What are your love languages? ❤️ What makes you feel loved? What influenced this? ❤️ How do you like to give love? What influenced this? ❤️ What would be your 6th love language? Take the 5 Love Languages Quiz Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection Instagram Patreon — Matt Landsiedel’s Website Michael DiIorio’s Website Calan Breckon’s Website

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The Practice of Empathy & Being an Empath

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and  Dr. Michael R. Smith talk about empathy and what it’s like being an empath and sensitive gay man in a world that isn’t designed for us. We share our own personal experiences being empathic/intuitive and how this can be beneficial but also challenging. We also discuss how relationships and sex can be different for empaths and how we have learned to best navigate this dynamic terrain.  The concepts we explored in this episode are: Connect with Michael: Website link: www.empathconnection.com Instagram: @michael_robert_smith Facebook: Empath Connection Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon

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Unconditional Love

Unconditional love sounds romantic, but is it realistic or even healthy? There are a lot of factors at play when we talk about this type of love, and it’s not as simple as it sounds.   In this episode, we’re diving deeper into unconditional love asking some important questions such as: ❤️ What does unconditional love mean? ❤️ What gets in the way of unconditional love? ❤️ How do you move towards loving someone unconditionally? Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection Instagram Patreon — Matt Landsiedel’s Website Michael DiIorio’s Website Calan Breckon’s Website

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Zero F**ks Given

What is holding you back from doing everything you want to do and being whoever you want to be? For a lot of people, worrying about what others will say or how they’ll be perceived gets in the way of living a truly authentic life.  In this episode, we’re looking at what it means to give zero f**ks. We’ll be answering questions such as…   Whether you give too many fucks, not enough, or just the right amount, you’ll find valuable insights and laughs in this fun-filled conversation. Today’s episode is sponsored by The Silva Ultramind System Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection Instagram Patreon

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Reinventing Yourself

One of the most exciting things about life is being able to transform your identity whenever you want. For most people, transformation happens naturally and gradually over time. But sometimes you can purposefully and intentionally undergo a process of personal reinvention to become a new version of yourself.  In this episode, we’re talking about Reinventing Yourself and answering questions such as…   Join us as we share our own reinventions of the past, and present, and how we’re reinventing ourselves for the future. Today’s episode is sponsored by The Silva Ultramind System Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection Instagram Patreon

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Healing From Sexual Trauma

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Tirrell Cherry talk intimately about healing sexual trauma. They share their own personal experiences with sexual abuse and how they have moved through their own trauma healing journeys. If you have experienced sexual trauma, you are not alone. This episode was created with the intention to normalize having these difficult conversations that can lead to deep connection, authenticity and healing. Connect with Tirrell: Website link: https://tirrellcherry.life Instagram: @tirrellcherry TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdMKxrbN/ Today’s episode is sponsored by The Silva Ultramind System Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon

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Making Friends

Research has shown that quality friendships are fundamental to the mental and emotional well-being of 2SLGBTQ+ individuals. A close-knit circle of friends can help us feel less alone, affirm our identity, and alleviate the stressors that come with being part of a stigmatized minority group. But making friends can be challenging for many reasons. In this episode, we’re exploring the topic of making friends, and answering these questions: Whether you want to make more friends or improve the friendships you already have, this episode will give you plenty of tips and insights that will help you improve your social circle. Today’s episode is sponsored by The Silva Ultramind System Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection Instagram Patreon

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Conflict Transformation

The holiday season can be a triggering one for a lot of people, especially those of us from the LGBTQ+ community. In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon speaks with guest Jeremy Long about how we can navigate conflict during this holiday season. Together they share their personal tips and tricks for those difficult interactions in hopes that it can make your holiday season a little more jolly. Jeremy Long is the founder of the Conscious Queer Community where he leads Queer Men’s groups. He’s also the owner of Enhance Leadership where he coaches about Leadership and Relationship Systems. Jeremy’s personal struggle with self-esteem and acceptance of his sexuality inspired him to support other queer men on their journeys. He now applies his experience in facilitation, emotional intelligence, and relationship systems to support queer and emerging leaders and teams who are ready to reach the next level in their development. Jeremy on IG The Conscious Queer Community IG In this episode, we’re exploring conflict transformation and ways you can go about navigating the holiday season with family and friends. We’ll be answering questions like: Join us to get a few tips and ideas on how you can survive this holiday season. Today’s episode is sponsored by The Silva Ultramind System Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon

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Lonely vs Being Alone

Being alone does not necessarily mean that you’re feeling lonely. Some people quite enjoy the experience of solitude and prefer it over being in large groups. But over time, does that disconnection lead to chronic loneliness? In this episode, we’re exploring the difference between being alone and the feeling of loneliness. We’ll cover topics such as: Join us to get a deeper understanding of how your introversion or extroversion can impact your experience of loneliness. Today’s episode is sponsored by The Silva Ultramind System Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon

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Bathhouses and Cruising

Long before the days of Grindr and the internet, the gay scene was largely underground. Gay and bi men had to find creative ways to connect in discreet, yet relatively safe spaces.   For many, the locals baths – or bathhouses- were a sanctuary where you could be yourself and meet other guys who were interested in both sexual and friendly connection. Meanwhile, cruising spots were known public spaces where men met for casual encounters.  Yet for decades, the baths were routinely raided and became a battleground for the fight for queer rights and the gay liberation movement.  In today’s episode of #GayMenGoingDeeper, Michael is talking with long-time writer, activist, and educator Tim McCaskell about bathhouses and cruising. Together they’ll share personal stories while exploring topics such as: Whether you enjoy the bathhouse scene or not, this episode will shed light on the sociological and historical significance of these queer spaces from the perspective of two men of two different generations.  Today’s Guest Tim McCaskell is a long-time writer, activist and educator. In addition to being a collective member of The Body Politic from 1974 to 1986, he was a leader in the fight back against police raids on the gay baths in the 80s. He was also a member of AIDS ACTION NOW! where he fought for funding for AIDS treatment and medication. He has published two books: “Queer Progress” and “Race to Equity“. Today’s Host Michael DiIorio is a certified life and wellness coach specializing in self-confidence, sexuality, and relationships. You can find Michael at www.wellismo.com and at in the Sexual Empowerment Group. You can also follow him on Instagram @wellismo_coach. Read: 10 Tips for Making the Most of Your Bathhouse Experience Today’s episode is sponsored by The Silva Ultramind System Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon

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