A lot of gay men pride themselves on being “nice”— easygoing, agreeable, low-drama. But what if that’s exactly why you’re not getting what you want?
In this episode, we break down the difference between being kind and being “nice,” and how approval-seeking, conflict avoidance, and over-accommodating are quietly killing attraction, respect, and real connection.
We talk about:
- Why “nice” is often a strategy, not a personality
- The hidden cost of being liked by everyone
- How this shows up in dating and relationships
- The difference between being chosen vs. being liked
- How to shift from approval-seeking to self-respecting
If you’ve ever felt overlooked, under-appreciated, or stuck in the friend-zone, this one will hit.
Today’s Hosts:
- Matt Landsiedel
- Michael DiIorio – Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men
- Reno Johnston
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